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5 Steps to Stop Feeling Sorry for Yourself!

5 Steps to Stop Feeling Sorry for Yourself!

Right now, honestly, seriously, I’m struggling. My tinnitus seems worse than ever, but habituation seems to be helping. Still, it doesn’t stop me feeling down at times. You know how it is when you feel down…

“Why me?”

 “Like I haven’t got enough problems!”

 “My life sucks!”

 “It’ll get worse!”

 “No one understands me.”

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I still have down moments, but that’s life. But I don’t stay down. I get back up.

It’s time for YOU to get back up too.

Are you ready?

Yes, because you’re here with me.

Release the tension. To move on from what’s troubling us, we need to shed the negativity that manifests through feelings that need to be released. Man or woman, boy or girl, whoever you are… let go. Release the pain. Cry. Scream. Roar. Exercise. Meditate. Sleep. Do whatever it takes to get an instant release. There’s no shame. It’s not a sign of weakness.

Step One- Release the pain.

Do it. Right now.

Seriously. I’ll wait here.

Done? Good.

Step Two- Treat yourself!

Now you’re going to pamper yourself. As long as it isn’t harmful, treat yourself with whatever you like. It could be dinner at a restaurant, a night at the movies, hours playing video games, a day at the salon, date night with that special someone, etc, etc, etc.

 “But it costs too much.”

One day won’t hurt. Or get someone else to pay. Or find a discount code or voucher.

 “But there’s work to do!”

All work and no play makes Jack have a nervous breakdown.

 “I’m not in the mood…”

Exactly.

Feeling sorry for ourselves puts us in a bad mood. To start moving on, we must feel better. Then we’ll have more motivation to get through this. Or you could just stay feeling miserable…

No? Good.

Go have some fun!

See you later, whether that’s today or tomorrow…

Done it? Great!

Welcome back!

You’re well rested, rejuvenated from a well-earned treat (you deserve it just for taking the first steps to change), and feeling much better.

What now?

Step Three-Can you fix it? Then fix it!

My ear ringing can’t be fixed right now. One day there will be more methods to handle it, reduce it, even cure it, but right now, there’s no off switch.I also can’t fix my eye floaters, OCD or Social Anxiety, but that’s life. Sometimes we can “fix” it and sometimes we can’t.

But can you fix yours?

If yes, time to start.  Taking action will change everything. Just by planning, you’ll change the course of your life.

The past is set, but the future is up to you.

So get motivated and start planning for your future. One day you will be free of your problem, whether its weight loss, low confidence, debt, etc, but you’ll never be free if you choose self-pity over action.

But what if you can’t “fix” it?

Step Four-Manage it!

My tinnitus is always with me, yet there are moments when I forget about it. It’s true for almost everything life throws at you. Your body is always willing to adapt. Like if you lose your sight and your hearing improves. Or lose your legs and your arms get stronger.

Your brain is also willing to adapt.

If I feel sad about my ears, the ringing gets worse. I breathe faster. My mind races through all the worst case scenarios. Then my subconscious makes the ringing louder because my conscious focused on it.

A seemingly endless cycle.

Seemingly.

There is always a way to manage. Always. Whether it’s depression, anxiety, OCD or any other mental/physical problems we face, there are people out there who keep living.

Join them.

Find those people. Learn their techniques. See what works for them. Do what you agree with. Then leave.

Why leave?

Because you don’t want your life to revolve around your problem. Debbie Downers online and offline do just that.

They fall down, stay down and then try to drag you down too. They’re the ones who keep comparing your problem to people who are “better off”. They’re the ones searching online for a cure when there is none. They’re the ones who only contribute something negative.

Stay away from them. Don’t feed off their worries, fears and problems.

You have enough of your own.

So, while your problem will always be there, you will learn to live with it. When I say “live” I mean it. You’ll live your life as you used to, but with the problem at the very back of your mind, somewhere you’ll see it from time to time but not care. You might completely forget about it.

And then you’ll be free.

Step Five-List everything you’ve ever overcome!

Everything, big or small. It could be recent or ages ago. Maybe you overcame it alone or as a team. Don’t hesitate! Write everything down. It’s all important because it all shapes you and your mental make up.

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Now, look over the list and note two things:

One, your current problem might be on the list. This shows that you do have the ability to achieve your goal. Despite feeling sorry for yourself back then, you moved on from that period. If you do something once, there’s no reason why you can’t do it again.

No reason. Just excuses.

Two, you overcame them. Be proud! You either fixed the problems or managed them.

So why can’t you do it again?

No reason. Just excuses.

Now get started.

How NOT To Deal With Anxiety

How NOT To Deal With Anxiety

The world has been waiting for this information. After years of not researching, I’ve come to no conclusion whatsoever. But I had to write something so, here it is! The one you haven’t been waiting for…How NOT To Deal With Anxiety!

Drugs

Drugs and alcohol are great ways to manage anxiety. You’ll be so drunk and so high that you won’t feel any fears! Just make you’re a functioning alcoholic or you won’t be able to hide your dependency on alcohol. If it gets really bad, you might lose your job, your family and, worse case scenario, your life, but it’s worth it. Dead people fear nothing because the worst has already happened.

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Hide

Morons suggest facing your fears. They say fear is just you overreacting to something that might be minor. Rubbish! Don’t beat fear by facing it, run and hide somewhere, anywhere, as long as you don’t face the problem. Hiding away is easy. Go into your room and stay there. See? Simple. Stay in there until you have to leave, you know, to eat, drink, use the potty, cut the grass, etc. Then back to your special hiding place. Keep doing this for the rest of your existence, I mean, your “life”.

Be alone

So-called experts recommend that you visit so-called experts. Nonsense. Don’t tell others that you’re struggling, keep it all inside. Then you can suffer in silence until you explode. By “explode” I mean lose it. No one will know why you’ve lost the plot, but that doesn’t matter. They’ll just think you’re _____ or a ______ and keep their distance. You’ll be even more alone after that. It’s a cycle that ends with you dying alone, but at least no one forced/ helped you deal with anxiety.

Distract yourself

Music, meditation, exercise, etc give a short-term fix. That’s much better than doing something that’ll beat anxiety forever. Keep distracting yourself until it attacks again…and again. After avoiding the problem for so long, you won’t  know how to deal with it but that’s too bad. Have another panic attack and return to more pointless distractions.

Prescription drugs

There’s a pill for almost everything, even if they don’t work. Instead of learning how to deal with anxiety, take a pill. Every day. For the rest of your life. How easy is that? Sure, if you don’t have free healthcare then it won’t come cheap. And you’ll have to experiment to find the right brand, dosage, etc. And there’s no guarantee it’ll work for you. And there might be crappy side effects like that numb feeling of feeling nothing. Yay! No more anxiety or sadness…or happiness, euphoria, pleasure, etc. Still, it’s worth it. I’d rather feel nothing than ever have good days again.

Suicide

When you can’t get any higher, drunker, and there’s nowhere left to hide…suicide. Here are 3 great reasons why you should kill yourself today.

Honestly, these are the best ways to make your life much worse. Anxiety and fear feed off drugs, distractions, and being hidden away. If you want to overcome anxiety for good, go elsewhere. Otherwise, use these tips to make your anxiety much worse.

Important Note: This post was sarcasm. If you’re using these tips, stop and try this instead.